Thursday, October 23, 2014
Here are 22 things I want my daughters to know in 22 years:
1. Do not spend all your time looking for the man of your dreams. This was my mistake. I would have enjoyed my twenties so much more if I appreciated being single and doing whatever I wanted to do, even if there was no potential to meet boys.
2. Travel. See the world as much as your budget allows. Once you have kids, you ain’t going nowhere.
3. Don’t obsess about your weight. You’ve probably got my sweet tooth and ability to pack on the pounds, but you know when I got my skinniest? When I stopped being so extreme about what I allowed myself to eat. Try eating a chocolate chip cookie without pretending it’s your last. Then you are less likely to eat the whole box.
4. Unless your passion is making money, don’t let money guide your career choice. When you have a family, you will hate every second of your job if it’s about nothing more than a paycheck. The easiest path to work life balance is having your time at work and your me time be one and the same.
5. Wear sunscreen!!!! Don’t wait until you’re thirty-five to realize you should have been taking care of your skin all along.
6. Don’t waste time being friends with people who aren’t nice people. They might have been the cool kids in college or the most fun people to party with, but you aren’t winning any sort of contest because someone who doesn’t like many people wants to be your friend. They will suck your positive energy, steal your boyfriend and create unnecessary drama that you should have outgrown by now.
7. If you are ever wondering if a guy you are dating really likes you, he doesn’t. Get rid of him.
8. Floss. (I’m told. I’m still trying to learn this one.)
9. Your body is your body. If you have to go to extremes to change it, it won’t last and it will just take you longer to learn to love it.
10. If you are ever feeling lonely, call your sister. She comes from the same place and understands you better than anyone. If you want a shoulder to cry on or a person to brag to, call your mom. She wants to hear all news— good and bad.
11. If you are trying to find romance based on Hollywood movies, notice almost all rom coms end when the two people get together. Real relationships are about the ups and downs that happen after that.
12. Don’t look for yourself in male form. Your father and I are totally different but work well together. If we were interested in all the same things, we would drive each other crazy. If we brought all the same skills to the table, half the shit adults need to do would never get done.
13. If you want to have children and a career, find a man who likes to cook.
14. If you ever get laid off, know that you can bounce back from it in a big way. That’s what your mom did.
15. Live somewhere different for at least a year. Growing up in NYC is kind of a curse because so many people migrate here. I like to think it’s where I would have ended up anyway, but truthfully, my one regret is that I never really left home.
16. Pick up a newspaper every once in awhile. Or read the Times on your iPad. Or visualize it on your iHolograph 2000. Whatever. Just be informed.
17. No one feels like a grown-up. We are all kids in adult bodies.
18. Everybody thinks they have no idea what they are doing when they first start a real job. Some are just better at hiding it.
19. Don’t live with someone before you are ready because it makes sense financially. It’s really hard to break-up when you are sharing a bathroom.
20. Your two or three closest friends are really the only friends that matter.
21. Don’t feel pressure to have kids if you don’t want them. Having kids is life-changing and hard. Take that decision seriously and don’t just do it because that’s what everyone expects. Even if your mother keeps pestering you.
22. Contrary to everything you previously thought, your mom is pretty cool
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Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Thursday, October 16, 2014
- Bake some goodies and bring them to work for your co-workers.
- Send out thank you notes.
- Hold the door open for someone.
- Give your change to the homeless.
- Leave “I love you” notes for your partner to find (perhaps his packed lunch or his work trousers pocket).
- Help a struggling elderly person or mother take their shopping to their car
- Say “hello” to a stranger.
- Stop to give your spare change to a charity collector.
- Smile at a stranger.
- Let someone go in front of you in traffic.
- Send an old friend a message asking how things are going for them.
- Talk to a stranger in the grocery store queue.
- Compliment someone.
- Leave dollar notes on a vending machine for the next person to use.
- Leave a note on a public bathroom mirror saying “You’re beautiful.”
- Send your partner a romantic/cute text message.
- Call up a relative or friend just to ask how they are.
- Offer your seat to someone standing on the train or bus.
- Cook “too much” of those special sausage rolls, or whatever your specialty is, and give the extras to a relative or friend.
- Help a leaflet distributor in the streets out and take a flyer.
- Smile at a stranger.
- Give someone a generous tip.
- Offer to make your co-workers their morning coffee.
- When you arrive for work, ask your co-workers how they are and if they had a good weekend (and show genuine interest).
- Make chit-chat with a stranger in an elevator.
- Is the person at the till in front of you short of change? Pay that extra to help them out.
- Hold the elevator for someone.
- Send someone a gift (flowers or box of goodies).
- Help out a co-worker.
- Let your partner or children choose what TV show to watch.
- Run an errand for someone.
- Listen to someone else’s problems.
- Donate to charity—whether it be household items you don’t need or old clothes.
- Write a love letter to your partner.
- Next time you are at the grocery store, buy a little gift for someone (e.g. your partner favourite chocolate bar).
- Tell someone a joke or funny story.
- Visit a friend or relative in hospital (don’t forget to bring them a gift!).
- Have a friendly chat with the cashier.
- If you had a good service at a restaurant, let the manager or waitress know.
- When you see a friend or relative, instantly give them a hug (unless they are not a hugger).
- Have a bath ready for your partner’s return from work.
- Treat a friend or relative to lunch.
- Write a love message on the shower door for your partner.
- Compliment others’ work on social media.
- Write down positive quotes and place them in library books.
- Give old clothes to a relative or friend.
- Put change in an expired meter.
- When your partner comes home, greet them at the door with a hug and kiss.
- Talk to someone who doesn’t know anyone at a party.
- Offer to return a cart for a mother or elderly person.
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